I am feeling the need to have a refresher for those that have visited an incall before and to those that are new. I have had a few people recently not respect the safety and privacy when it comes to my incall location both as I am traveling and here at home. I am hoping to put this out publicly to help everyone can maintain discretion and safety for all parties involved.
Personal, Professional, Private Incall
Every provider has their own way that makes them feel safe and be able to provide the best situation for all parties involved. These are items that reflect my preferences.
Communication is key.
Follow how the provider wants to be communicated with, i.e. text, phone call, email, ect. Follow every direction they give you to a T. We do our research and give you the best way to maintain privacy and discretion for you and the provider.
After the booking has been confirmed; not before, an address or location near to the incall will be given to allow you to make your way close by. A neighbourhood, or intersection near the location may be given before hand to judge timing on arrival (given this is a short notice appointment). Communicate that you have arrived. The next step if there is one, will be the location and parking instructions if any are needed. DO NOT approach the building till you are communicated to do so. They may need a moment to finish getting ready, or finish setting up a request.
If you have been to the location many times before, DO NOT, approach the building until communicated to do so.
If you are early, let them know but do not expect to come in till your expected time.
The best way to enter the building details will be given; A buzz code, apartment number, door to knock on, ect. I like to add in how to go to elevators and where to go off of them to make it seem more like you know where you are going.
If you happen to get into the building without buzzing, please let the provider know.
Please knock softly in a large building. The provider is normally waiting on the other side of the door, keeping an eye out for you. We don't want to alert the neighbours to the coming of you or us.
Please fully come into the place to allow the provider to close the door. Depending how we dress to greet clients or requests asked for, we may not be able to greet you normally. Save all the good stuff for when the doors are closed.
DO NOT EVER EVER EVER! show up unannounced at a providers door. Schedule your time with your provider always. If you have a reoccurring date with them, always confirm before hand. Evening before or morning of date is best. We all have lives outside of this and wish to maintain discretion for everyone.
Do not speak to any building staff or management. Do not communicate why you are there with anyone. Maintain the high honour of the awkward elevator silence at all times, okay maybe conversations of the weather is okay.
ABOVE ALL remember; safety, privacy and discretion is important for all. Most of us do our very best to be able to maintain that for everyone. Please do your part so we can all continue enjoying the fun we get to have.
Hotel, AirBnB, commercial space
Much to the same as above but a few differences.
Follow how the provider wants to be communicated with, i.e. text, phone call, email, ect. Follow every direction they give you to a T. We do our research and give you the best way to maintain privacy and discretion for you and the provider. If the provider is using a hotel. DO NOT ask which hotel. For safety of both parties. We don't broadcast which hotel we are staying in. We will give near by intersection or location to be able to arrive 5 to 10 mins to location. Once the appointment is confirmed, the hotel I am at will be given, along with parking instructions if needed.
Communicate when you've arrive. Depending on the hotel, I would highly suggest staying outside until given the okay to come in. I have been to a few that you would get lost in the lobby they are so big and busy. Those are okay to wait inside. Stay away from the front desk. DO NOT speak with anyone at the front desk or other staff members of the hotel. As we like to refer to it; You are a ghost to the building. You are there but not known to be there.
Communication will be given to elevators and room number when the provider is ready for you.
Please knock softly. Depending on the housekeeping location, some providers may have the door ajar for you. This will be noted in communication. Please fully come into the space to allow the provider to close the door. Depending how we dress to greet clients or requests asked for, we may not be able to greet you normally. Save all the good stuff for when the doors are closed. Do not lock the door. The key card and Do not disturb sign is enough. This is safety for both parties.
Please be as clean as possible. This isn't our space, we may not be able to use hundreds of towels or change of sheets as needed. Sanitization is done between all clients and fresh supplies (towels, face cloths, mouth wash, soaps ect. are provided by myself)
There maybe special exit instructions for smaller hotel locations. This may be given in person or with the parking instructions.
ABOVE ALL remember; safety, privacy and discretion is important for all. Most of us do our very best to be able to maintain that for everyone.
I personally reverse this for outcalls and maintain communication as much as possible with my ETA, when I have arrived and when I am on my way up. Communication gives everyone peace of mind and allows us to feel safe.
I hope this helps everyone. Stephanie ❤️